20 Ways Going Out to Dinner Was Radically Different in the '50s

Going out to dinner in the 1950s was an entirely different experience compared with today. Back then, diners had to adhere to a strict set of social norms and expectations that most people today would likely roll their eyes at. The era also emphasized traditional values that shaped most social interactions, especially on dates. Couples were expected to adhere to these rules, where chivalry and courtesy were a must. 

From the moment a young man picked up his date at her home to the time they said goodnight, every aspect of the evening was imbued with a sense of decorum and tradition that might be labeled as corny or overbearing by today’s standards. 

Here are 20 ways that show how going out to dinner has changed over the years.

In the 1950s, it was common for young women to have curfews that were strictly enforced. Parents would often set a specific time by which their daughters had to be home, typically around 10 or 11 p.m. Back then, curfews were seen as a way to protect the young woman's reputation, as being out too late (especially with a man) could raise eyebrows or invite gossip among neighbors. 

Dates often began with the man arriving at the lady's home to pick her up. This was not just a matter of convenience, but a sign of respect toward her family, especially her parents. After arriving, he would greet her folks, sometimes engaging in small talk to assure them of his good intentions. This initial interaction set the tone for the evening and demonstrated his manners and respect for her loved ones.  

In some cases, especially for younger couples or those from more conservative families, a chaperone would accompany the couple to dinner. This person could be an older sibling or family friend that was there to ensure the date remained appropriate and within the bounds of social norms. While their presence added a sense of formality, we bet it was super awkward trying to get a goodnight kiss this way. 

As the evening's host, it was customary for the man to take charge of ordering and paying for dinner. This gesture was rooted in the traditional gender roles of the time, where the man was seen as the sole provider. Though he might consult his date on her preferences, he would ultimately make the decisions. Today, this approach might be viewed as patronizing, or even condescending. Don't tell us what to eat, am I right?!

Going out to dinner in the 1950s was a formal affair — and both men and women dressed accordingly. Men wore suits and ties, while women donned dresses and heels. On more formal occasions, ladies would also wear gloves as a sign of etiquette and class. This level of dressing up was a way to show respect for the occasion and for each other. The effort put into appearances also reflected one's social status. 

The 1950s were the golden age of American diner culture. Couples would often visit these establishments, which were characterized by their chrome finishes, checkered floors, and old-school jukeboxes. Diners offered a casual yet nostalgic atmosphere where young people could enjoy a meal and each other’s company in a lively setting.

With the rise of car culture in the '50s and beyond, drive-in restaurants became popular. Couples would often drive up to these establishments and enjoy their meals in the car. Drive-ins were a unique feature of the era and they also provided a level of privacy that was especially appealing to teenagers and young couples.  

Menus in the 1950s were often simpler and more limited compared to today's extensive offerings. Popular items included classic American fare like hamburgers, hot dogs, fries, and milkshakes. These simple meals reflected the culinary trends of the time, which favored hearty, straightforward dishes over the many options and flavor profiles we have today.  

Without cell phones and other gadgets, dinner time in the '50s meant your family had your undivided attention. Conversations were uninterrupted, and couples could fully engage with each other without the distractions of text messages, social media, or phone calls. This fostered deeper connections and more meaningful interactions.  

Back then, etiquette during dining was far more stringent than today. There were clear expectations about table manners, from how to properly use utensils to the appropriate way to address the waiter. These etiquette rules were typically ingrained from a young age and were an important part of social conduct while dining out. 

While some restaurants still have designated smoking areas today, back then, it was commonplace. Ashtrays were provided on every table, and it was socially acceptable to light up a cigarette before, during, or after a meal. This practice, while now considered a health hazard, was a standard part of the dining experience in the '50s.  

Before our cellphones also doubled as event planners, reservations were not as common, and waiting for a table was a normal part of the dining experience. Couples would often spend time chatting in the lobby or bar area while waiting for their turn to be seated. Perhaps the wait time added an element of excitement to the evening? 

In the '50s, restaurant menus were typically printed on paper, and the concept of digital or QR code menus was non-existent. Payments were almost always made in cash, as credit cards were not widely used until later decades. Nowadays, you'd be hard pressed to find a person with a ton of cash on them. How times have changed!  

Back then, special dietary requests and restrictions were not commonly catered to. The idea of gluten-free, vegan, or allergy-specific menus was unheard of. Diners generally ate what was available without much customization, and let's face it, chefs probably weren't very aware of gluten or other common allergies we have today. 

Music played a significant role in the dining experience of the 1950's — mainly with old-school jukeboxes providing the soundtrack. Couples and families could select their favorite tunes to play while they ate, which added a personal touch and made their dining experience more special and memorable. 

Many eateries, especially higher-end or luxury restaurants, commonly featured formal dining rooms with white tablecloths and elegant place settings. (Think how first-class passengers on the Titanic ate their meals). The ambiance was designed to create a sophisticated dining experience, with attentive service and a focus on creating an upscale atmosphere for guests. Diners were of course expected to dress up to par. 

Family-style dining, where dishes were shared among the table, was common in many establishments. This communal approach to dining fostered a sense of togetherness and was a popular choice for larger groups or family outings. In other countries, especially in Asia, communal dining remains a cherished tradition, with families looking forward to coming together and sharing a meal at the end of the day.

While one can expect to find all kinds of drinks (alcoholic or not) while dining out today, back then, the beverage options were often limited to coffee, tea, soft drinks, and a few alcoholic beverages. The extensive cocktail menus and craft beer selections of today were not nearly as prevalent.

Restaurants often placed a heavier emphasis on using local and seasonal ingredients, as the concept of global food distribution was not as developed as it is today. This emphasis on fresh, local produce gave meals a distinct regional flavor and connected diners to the local food economy. 

In the '50s, dining out was often also accompanied by specific social rituals, such as the young man opening doors for his date, pulling out her chair, and standing when she left or returned to the table. These gestures of courtesy and respect were expected and added to the formality of the dining experience. 

For more fun looks back at the past, please sign up for our free newsletters.